September 15, 2014
The Judgemental Critic
Well.. I lost it… big-time. probably unforgivably, given the venue.
Advise is always best taken when asked for. Criticism is never taken too well and being judged is out of the question. (unless, of course, you hear about it through mutual friends, that’s the best!)
Two days before, I found myself staring at my phone, shaking my head and wondering if that had actually happened. Oh yeah, it did. It didn’t just slip out once with an uncomfortable recovery, three serious times, with a little yes I can/ no you can’t argument at the end. There I was defending myself to someone who has no credible clue about what they are judging. Not the first time I’ve had to listen to this crap, but it is now uncomfortably creeping closer to what one would call close to the heart, personal.
A few hours later, not being able to shake it, I was taking inventory of our “friendship” and was just getting madder. I realized that this person has picked on a lot of things dear to me. Relationships, work, everything. My friends of 40+ years are assholes, and yeah, one is a “tool”. Nothing was safe from their opinion. All my life I had never realized how much of a total idiot I was until I listened to my “friend”. It has to be mentioned that this can’t be reciprocal, tried that, something about parental skills, got my head bit off.
So, two days later and two days of inventory taken, my unfortunate “friend” came by.
The advise and criticism started.
Blah Blah Blah…
And I went off….
BEEN THERE DONE THAT!
Had a friend that always had an opinion about everything that happened. I listened to opinions about what I was doing. I listened to opinions about what others were doing. I thought hey, what does this person say about me to others? So I asked them. Not very nice. I learned who my friends were. One suggested it was bullying to help them feel better about themselfs.
We all have people like that in our lives, We have the choice how we react to their “bullying” it’s up to us to leave that conversation feeling good or bad. I try to leave feeling good. Not my problem if they don’t feel good. I am in control of my own feelings. Don’t be mad. You only wreck yourself.
I agree . Putting out positive enery , , ,Brings positive energy dont waste your time on there crap . Who needs friends that drain u . When I got a certain age I down loaded people in my life if it was work to be there friend .